When planning funeral services, many details need to be considered. From choosing whether to host a visitation to deciding whether to allow photos, each decision helps create a meaningful experience for family and friends. At Donohue Funeral Home, we understand that each family is unique, and that’s why we offer personalized services that honor your loved one in a way that feels right to you. This blog explores some key considerations to keep in mind as you plan your memorial service. 

Should You Have a Visitation Before Funeral Services? 

One of the first decisions families must make is whether or not to have a visitation before the funeral. A visitation offers family and friends an opportunity to gather before the service to pay their respects and say their final goodbyes. Here are a few reasons why visitations may be beneficial: 

Provides Closure: A visitation allows attendees to see their loved one last time, which can help provide a sense of closure. 

Creates Space for Reflection: Having time before the funeral to gather with others allows attendees to reflect on the life of the deceased in a more personal setting. 

Allows for Private Farewells: Some family members may prefer a more private setting to say their goodbyes. A visitation can offer this opportunity. 

Chance for Personal Connection: A visitation gives friends and relatives who may not attend the funeral service the chance to pay their respects beforehand. 

Choosing to hold a visitation is a personal decision, and it's important to weigh these factors when deciding what will work best for your family. 

Private Funeral Home Services for a Loved One 

For some families, a private funeral service may feel more appropriate than a public one. Private services allow immediate family members and close friends to gather in a more intimate setting. There are several reasons why families might choose private services: 

• Smaller Gathering: Private services limit the number of attendees, making it a more personal and quieter event. 
• Focus on Family: With fewer people in attendance, the focus remains on the family’s experience, allowing for more personal moments of reflection and remembrance. 
• More Flexibility: Families have more flexibility in personalizing private services, including choosing the venue, music, and readings that best reflect their loved one. 
• Respect for Privacy: If the family or the deceased valued privacy in life, a private service may feel more fitting for honoring their memory. 

Private services give families the space to grieve and honor their loved one in a close-knit environment without the need for large gatherings. 

The Possibility of Taking Photos at Funeral Home Services 

Taking photos at funeral services is a topic that often raises questions for families. While some view photography to preserve memories of the day, others feel it may not be appropriate. Here are some things to consider: 

• Family Preference: The most important factor is the family’s preference. If the family feels that photos will help them remember the service, it’s important to communicate this with attendees. 
• Cultural and Religious Norms: Some cultures or religions may have specific guidelines about taking photos during a funeral. Make sure to respect these customs when planning. 
• Sensitivity to Grieving: While photos may capture important moments, it’s essential to remain sensitive to the emotions of those attending the service. Some people may prefer not to be photographed during a difficult time. 
• Documenting the Service: If you choose to take photos, it may be best to designate a photographer or limit the number of photos taken during key moments, such as eulogies or the procession. 

Photography at funerals can be a meaningful way to document a loved one’s service, but it’s crucial to approach this decision with sensitivity and respect. 

Memorials Can Happen Outside of Funeral Home Services 

Memorial services don’t always have to take place within the walls of a funeral home. In fact, many families choose to hold memorials in different settings that reflect the personality or wishes of their loved one. Here are some alternative locations for hosting a memorial service: 

• Outdoor Venues: For nature lovers, holding a memorial in a park, garden, or other outdoor location can be a beautiful way to celebrate their life. 
• Family Homes: Some families prefer the intimacy of hosting a memorial in their own home, where memories of the deceased are made. 
• Places of Worship: Religious families may want to host their memorials in a place of worship that holds significance for their faith and traditions. 
• Favorite Spots: If your loved one had a favorite place, such as a beach, museum, or cafe, holding the memorial there can make the service feel even more personal. 

The most important factor in choosing a memorial venue is that it reflects your loved one’s spirit and provides comfort to those attending. 

Funeral Services for Veterans: What You Need to Know 

Funeral services for veterans come with their own set of traditions and honors. If your loved one served in the military, you may want to consider specific elements to include in the service. Here are some things to keep in mind when planning a funeral for a veteran: 

• Military Honors: Veterans are often entitled to military honors, which may include a flag-folding ceremony, the playing of "Taps," and a rifle salute. 
• Burial in a National Cemetery: Veterans may be eligible for burial in a national cemetery, which provides a final resting place that honors their service. 
• Flag Presentation: A United States flag is traditionally presented to the family of the deceased veteran, symbolizing their service and dedication to the country. 
• Customized Memorial: Many families choose to personalize veteran services by including elements such as military uniforms, medals, and photographs from their time in service. 

Honoring a veteran’s service through specific traditions can be a powerful way to celebrate their life and contributions to the country.